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By: Kim

Kim — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 05:34:39 +0000

Wow, this was so well put together. I think you’re a great writer and a strong woman.

By: Carly

Carly — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 02:01:24 +0000

Your story is both beautifully written and inspirational. I finally, after over a year of separation and trying, filed for my divorce on Friday. I understand all of the mixed emotions, but those experiences teach you the things about yourself that you never knew or that you forgot. I loved him, but I loved myself more—and I have to live the life that I want to live. You will live the life that you want to live, as well. You will be you, only stronger and better. Here’s to new beginnings, girl!

By: anddan

anddan — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 11:34:35 +0000

Janine,

Thank you so much. I did weave many fantasies in those seven years. Looking back I just want to shake myself. Writing this story has been very cathartic and I plan to continue it in the coming months. Thank you for the feedback.

Andrea

By: anddan

anddan — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 11:30:47 +0000

Lynn,

Thank you for your comment. It is such a personal thing to write and I am glad that it resonates with other women going through the same struggle to find wholeness. Thank you.

By: anddan

anddan — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 11:13:55 +0000

Map,

Thank you and I know you do have the same strength. You are an amazing woman and should be treated as such. It is a very lonely feeling, and it is so easy to talk yourself out of the truth, but you are Not alone.

By: Janine

Janine — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 15:32:16 +0000

Andrea,
Great job showing, not telling, especially the section about how he belittles you in public for your own good, and then the section on the toast. We weave such romantic, simple fantasies when we’re in the thick of it, don’t we? Justifying, wishing, hoping, believing… Well done.
Janine

By: Lynn Waltz

Lynn Waltz — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 03:29:19 +0000

Andrea,

Thanks for writing this. It brought back so many memories of those difficult married times. And, the angst of deciding to leave and the striving to regain wholeness. Thanks.

By: Map

Map — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 01:55:11 +0000

Ok, so after our little conversation today…this brought a flood of emotions and tears. Its a lonely feeling…when reality crashes into your ignorant bliss. May everyone find the strength that you did. Thank you for sharing your story.

By: anddan

anddan — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 23:23:02 +0000

Thank you Hannah. You are right, divorce evokes so many emotions and they all happen so fast. That is why I chose to write my thoughts instead of trying to describe my feelings.

Writing and reading something so personal to me has been difficult. At times I thought, “Can I really say this aloud?” Hearing that it gives you hope and comfort is just amazing to me.

Thank you Hannah, you make it easier for me to write more.

By: anddan

anddan — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 23:03:58 +0000

Thank you ParkPlacePioneer. You have made this easier for me by being so supportive and I love that about You. How many times have you heard this story already? Oh yeah and last week I curled 40lbs both sets.. ha.. you want the first ticket to my gun show?

By: anddan

anddan — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 22:56:04 +0000

Thanks Christine. Leaving my ex was one of the hardest things I have ever done. When you told me in class that you could relate it made it much easier to write the things that people don’t normally talk about.

By: Hannah Serrano

Hannah Serrano — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 18:25:15 +0000

This story captures for me so many of the mixed emotions I felt when I got divorced. Guilt, confusion, pain, liberation, relief. It’s such a difficult thing to explain, but I think anyone who suffers this kind of heartbreak knows exactly.

It’s interesting how we don’t know just how strong we are until, well, we know. And what some people think is quitting or cowardly can be the strongest choice anyone can ever make.

You are a brave and amazing person, Andrea, and I know your story gives a lot of people (like me) hope and comfort.

By: ParkPlacePioneer

ParkPlacePioneer — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 17:10:16 +0000

I’m proud of you Andrea. After all that you’ve been through and you can still always find a smile. In some ways you are so much stronger than me and i love that about you. Oh, and you’re funny!

By: Christine Dore

Christine Dore — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 15:46:24 +0000

You are so incredible, Andrea! While your story is sad, there’s also a serious strength behind it and I find you so inspiring. Thank you for sharing this.